The Time is NOW!

Hello, good day, and salutations to all the many who are out there and may end up here reading my thoughts. I am excited to actually be getting to this aspect of my life. I have been telling people for a while I am going to start blogging, and since so many have said do it,I am doing it! Now, for those who don't know me, and even those who do, I am a little opinionated. I sit behind a chair all day and listen to many people's different problems and often find myself asked for advice. I give it, and sometimes they come back and tell me it actually worked! So here I am ready to give some of this great advice to you, my friends, fans, loved ones, and even many strangers. I know, you're welcome!
My first blog is going to be about dating. What strikes me as most common in the people I meet are these strict categories that people have developed in regards to dating and relationships. It seems that people like to limit themselves and their partners to either a) just sex or b) future spouse. There doesn't seem to be a scale in there at all. Those who say they are in the gray area are really just waiting for it to move forward or until they find someone better it seems. I know for a fact about the first one because I have a bit of experience with that from both ends. But it seems that if someone likes you a bit, they then need to know "where is this going?". Personally I think that it is going to your place for a delightful sleepover. Don't worry, I'll pay for dinner! But alas, this is the wrong answer. And beware the man, or woman, who says this! Suddenly you are that asshole, or bitch, who is just "using them". Unless you are like me, who is thinking,"God please, please use me!" So this has told me that what is needed is a coaching guide on how to date casually. I am excited because truly if I have one talent, it is dating casually. Now I get to share it with the world.
When you meet someone new, try to imagine a scale. On one end of that scale is spouse. On the other end of tat scale is, scary stalker to avoid and run away from! In the middle is stranger. Now when you meet a stranger, they usually, if they are the gender of your sexual preference, are automatically moved up at least sexual partner. i say this because most of us speak to people we are interested in. For a lot of us that includes friends. It is just human nature to be interested in people we are physically attracted to. Now as we get to know them, find out what they do, what their religion is, and any possible prison record, we move them up and down that scale. Somethings say, sex, but not datable material. Some things say, datable, for a few months,but cannot meet my parents. Some things, say no sex, but we can be friends. Some things say, run away as fast as you can. Now the reason I say a scale is because there are things that we all like and do not like. There are things we will tolerate because they are balanced out by others. The trouble is most people do not see this scale. For instance, great job, right house, and good teeth can be canceled out by 3 kids, 2 ex wives and and awful body odor.
So there is my first bit of advice if you will. When dating, try to imagine your own scale. Instead of planning your wedding, try asking if you would even climb into bed with them. I am not saying you have to do that, but wouldn't you at least like to know you would?